What is self-love?
Commonly, self-love is misunderstood. Many believe it means adorning yourself from head to toe with expensive clothes, luxury products, and material beauty. But that’s not real self-love—it’s a distraction. In fact, research shows that only about 10% of our happiness, satisfaction, and sense of achievement is connected to external factors like wealth, appearance, or possessions.
True self-love runs much deeper. It’s not about how you look—it’s about how you see yourself.
At its core, self-love revolves around two powerful elements:
- Knowing Yourself – Understanding your thoughts, emotions, values, strengths, weaknesses, and what truly matters to you. It’s about being honest with yourself without fear or shame.
- Accepting Yourself – Embracing who you are, completely. This includes your imperfections, past mistakes, quirks, and uniqueness. It’s choosing to be kind to yourself, even when the world isn’t.
Self-love is the foundation for a meaningful life. It nurtures confidence, resilience, and inner peace. When you know and accept yourself, you no longer chase validation—you become your own safe space.
So no, self-love isn’t in your makeup kit, your clothing label, or your bank account.
Self-love is in your mindset, your self-talk, and your relationship with yourself.
How to know yourself?
Know what you think, your true nature, what is hidden in your unconscious, what is your strength, what is your dark side, knowing that who you are and who you want to be and who you don’t want to be.
How to accept yourself?
Accepting and acknowledging everything that’s inside you no matter its good or bad .it can be good as well as it can be bad .most people reject and hide their dark side and suppress and burry their pain deep inside them so deeper they try to hide the darker and painful it goes inside your mind and heart we are addicted to social approval an social acceptance and this society has made us believe that we must always be good , cute ,loving and caring and good people are always good to everyone all the time .
We have categorize people into the category of good and bad people so and if we fall in the category of good people we will be loved ,accepted and appreciated all the time and because of this we accept bare minimum
And we are good to people all the time if they are abusive and thus is some thong that drain us because how can be a person good all the time so at this point we have to learn that we all have bad side which don’t define us but still a part of us and we have to accept it .it does not mean that we should not believe in kindness ,love and compassion to others but accept yourself as you are .
Self-love is about choosing yourself every single day to study your thoughts, your pattern and examine your behavior and thoughts.
Self-love about creating a home deep inside you where you can be you without pretending, without worrying about other people thoughts and without worrying about healing .where you are you are beautiful with your dark side.
You just have to learn to not blame yourself for having some traits that are not accepted by the society learn to accept every bit of yourself, you don’t have to be all classy love yourself. Look at yourself with You eyes not who left you betray you .you ate unique in you, in the racw of finding people we lost ourselves
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